The Five Love Languages

Lesson number 8: I've slowly learned what love languages speak to me the most.

Not sure why I'm writing this one.  It's a lesson that has helped me so much in understanding why I feel the way I feel sometimes and why I respond to certain things more than others. I'm going to list each love language and then say how it correlates to myself.

Gifts- One thing is for sure. Gifts is not my love language.  It's not that I don't like gifts, I just don't feel as much intimacy with people as I do with other love languages.  My favorite gifts are thoughtful, and take time (which is my love language).  My top five favorite gifts of all time are (in no particular order): a picture frame that I made with my old boyfriend, a personal scrapbook (that has a poem she wrote in it!), letters my friend wrote me when I left for Hume Lake, pictures my friend drew for me, and my purity ring (which I waited to get for about 4 years).  I love personal gifts, I can't say that enough.  That's why I don't like giving gifts unless they're thoughtful.

Acts of Service- This is the one love language that I honestly wish was higher, but it's not.  I absolutely appreciate it when people do things for me, I just don't feel as loved when I receive acts of service compared to the other languages.  My ex boyfriend was the master at this language, but I never felt intimacy/love when he would bring me food to work or wash my dish.  I just thought, "that was nice." I never thought, "WOW. I can't believe he did that for me! He's so sweet and loving." I wish I was better at this language because it drives my mom crazy that I'm not more thoughtful when it comes to doing chores or doing things for her.

Touch- This is a language that was honestly completely dead for the longest time and was only brought out by my ex boyfriend and other friends.  I LOVE touch.  I honestly debate with myself weather or not this or words of affirmation is higher.  Words of affirmation only beats touch my a little bit.  I feel so much love and intimacy with friends when we hug, have are arms around each other,  hold hands (especially when I pray), etc.  I just feel so close to people who I can touch and hold.  When someone touches my leg/arm and asks how I'm doing, I feel like they legitimately want to know and it's not just a passing conversation.

Words of Affirmation- The only reason words of affirmation is my secondary love language compared to time is because people's words affect me SO much.  One sarcastic comment and my mood drops.  One compliment and my mood is immediately uplifted.  I wish that I would get hit on more often by guys, I think it would really boost my self confidence haha just kidding (kind of).  I can't get enough of compliments and when people say, "I love you" (not 'love you' or 'love ya' or 'ily', the whole phrase).

Time- Time is my love language, without a doubt.  If I haven't spent time with someone or haven't talked to them in a long time I feel so disconnected.  This is why I love thoughtful gifts, letters, and why I show up early to everything.  We don't even have to be talking, just their presence is enough to make me feel close to them.  When people want to spend time with me, I feel loved.  More loved than I think they know.

This is me and I've learned a lot from knowing my love languages.

~Alyssa (SailorD)

P.S: No Sailor Moon illustration this time :P